这是一个基于真人真事的“小说”，一个英国的家庭因为互惠生的介入而破裂的故事，与其说，是家庭中的母亲“发现自我”，互惠生“被动介入”的“离奇故事”
不过这种行为落在真实生活中，我们是坚决抵制。（坚决支持捍卫正确家庭观，一方面，书中的故事及报道可以给我们“离奇”事件的一隅，另外只能感叹世界之大，无奇不有！）
虽然是“真人真事”，但是读起来让我这个互惠生从业者也觉得离奇。从fb上了解到这个姐姐（作者，故事里离婚的妈妈）现在一个人生活在南非但常回英国（身体似乎不是很好，希望她一切都好）。
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这是一个英国的家庭妈妈在伤病时和互惠生发生“真爱”的故事，她为了这个互惠生离了婚，共同生活2年后又和这个互惠生离了婚。
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图1-2 是她的自传体叙事小说《我为了互惠生离开我的丈夫：一个真实的故事》
图3-4是亚马逊读者评论。大部分读者表示大跌眼镜，于普世价值观不合。也有部分读者赞赏这个妈妈的“诚实”。
图5-10英国Gardian当年的报道（真人真事哦）
图11 网友五百多个评论，几乎和亚马逊的书评一样两边倒。
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那么，抛开传统观念，你怎么看？
我先说：坚决支持捍卫成熟家庭观：作成熟家长。互惠生不是劳燕分飞的借口~
但是，我们又都是人不是么？
This is a “novel” based on real people and real events. It is a story about a British family being broken up due to the intervention of an au pair. Rather, it is a “bizarre story” in which the mother in the family “finds herself” and the au pair is “passively involved”.
However, in real life, we firmly oppose such behavior. (We firmly support and defend the correct family values. On the one hand, the stories and reports in books can give us a glimpse of “bizarre” events. On the other hand, we can only sigh at the vastness of the world and the endless wonders!)
Although it is a “true story”, it still sounds bizarre to me, a practitioner in the au pair industry. I learned from Facebook that this sister (the author, the divorced mother in the story) is now living alone in South Africa but often returns to the UK. (She seems to be in poor health. I hope everything is fine with her.)
This is a story of a British mother who finds “true love” with an au pair when she is injured and sick. She divorces her husband for this au pair. After living together for two years, she divorces this au pair again.
Figures 1-2 are her autobiographical narrative novel “I Left My Husband for an Au Pair: A True Story”.
Figures 3-4 are Amazon reader reviews. Most readers are shocked and find it inconsistent with universal values. Some readers also appreciate the “honesty” of this mother.
Figures 5-10 are reports from the British Guardian in those years (it’s a true story!).
Figure 11 shows more than five hundred comments from netizens, which are almost equally divided like Amazon book reviews.
So, setting aside traditional concepts, what’s your opinion?
I’ll say first: firmly support and defend a mature family concept: be a mature parent. Au pairs are not an excuse for separating like swallows.
